Guidelines for Child Parenting Time

Author: Gary Salatto
NY Divorce Mediator

The purpose of child parenting time is to make sure that both parents play a significant role in their child’s life.  And even though being a parent is not easy and every parent makes mistakes, it is in your child’s best interest to have strong and loving relationship with each parent.

The following guidelines may be helpful in developing a child parenting (visitation) plan:

Make sure your child has regular contact between both parents.

  • Never verbally or physically attack your ex spouse in front of your child.
  • If you are the custodial parent make sure your child is ready visitations and available at the designated time.  If you are the non-custodial parent make sure you return your child at the agreed upon time.
  • Allow for flexibility in the location of the visitation, such as the non-custodial parent’s home, or other agreed upon location as opposed to limiting the visitation to your child’s primary residence.
  • Both you and your ex spouse should not involve romantic partners during visitation time.  The visitation time is meant to be shared between child and parent and introducing other parties can confuse your child and take away from his or her special time with mom or dad.
  • Try to give as much visitation time as is practical with the non-custodial parent.  Do all you can to be flexible if schedule changes are necessary and be considerate of the other parent by giving as much notice as possible about scheduling changes.
  • Encourage your child to have a good and strong relationship you’re your ex spouse, regardless of any personal feelings you may have of him or her.
  • Never use your child as a spy, go-between or bargaining chip with your ex spouse.  Parenting time is meant as a means to foster a good relationship between your child and his or her parent and for no other reason.
  • Be committed to reaching agreements with your ex spouse in decisions about your child, especially about disciplinary actions.  And if you have disagreements do not discuss them in front of your child.

Talk to a Long Island Divorce Mediator About Child Parenting Agreement

Working out a successful child parenting agreement can make all the difference in your life and your child’s life.  An experienced Long Island divorce mediator can help you work out a plan that is workable to everyone involved.

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